The vast majority of the time, cries of racist, sexist, ableist and ageist and on and on are the Politically Correct accusations hurled at individuals and groups. The intention is to completely remove these accused entities from being allowed to have any legitimate part in the public discourse. To cancel them as the new terminology goes. And to do all of this without a legitimate set of facts, or anything that looks like a logical train of thought.
At Revolution 2.0™ the point is not to out-insult and out-shout the ist-yellers; the point is to use verbal judo when engaged in these conversations, or when talking or writing about this type of dialog. Judo, the “gentle art” uses the opponent’s’ size and strength against them. In judo, we watch the other person, get a feel for what they are doing and what they might do next. When they move against us, we use their momentum against them to “gently” move them to the floor. At Revolution 2.0, we do something very similar. We listen to what the other person is saying and decide how to use their enthusiasm, their initial thinking and reasoning, to move them to where we want them–to where we believe they need to be.
Unlike judo, we do not intend to defeat anyone; we lead. We do not react and reply in kind; we lead.
That is the subject of today’s 10-minute episode.
Let’s look at some of the things that can very quickly escalate–requiring us to use our verbal judo skills, in these cases leading to long and loud accusations of racism:
And some similar examples with sexism:
Let’s add two from the “phobe” category; xenophobe and homophobe:
These above examples are all born in an already deep and growing embarrassment and dislike for America, and who we are as Americans. And many of us want to punish ourselves and the nation for being successful. Kind of a national masochism.
Let’s hear from Thomas Sowell, an American economist and social theorist who is currently a Senior Fellow at the Hoover Institution, Stanford University, “Too many people today act as if no one can honestly disagree with them. If you have a difference of opinion with them, you are considered to be not merely in error, but in sin. You are a racist, a homophobe or whatever the villain of the day happens to be.”
When confronted with these kind of judgments, we must remain calm and focused. Listen. Guide. Coach. Like diet and exercise, this process takes time. There is a new study that says only about 40% of Americans know who their congressperson is. And I believe it. Start with where they are and what they know, not where you are. Gently (remember, a key judo concept) bring them, with genuine regard for who they are and how they think, to where you are. And to do that, you will need to have patience, real knowledge of the subject at hand, and want to have them see the truth as you see it. Oh, and to do this, you will need to get away from the people you know who already agree with you, an go mix it up with a lot of different people. Said differently, get out there and make a difference. Preaching to the converted is easy and comforting, but not useful.
And be open to learning from the people with whom you initially disagree. For my part, I know that I have more to learn that I know now. And I always will.
“It is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.” -Chinese proverb. Let us light our candles in the cursed darkness of today’s politics and political correctness.
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